About

The idea

Red or Green starts from a simple observation: people talk about “red flags” all the time, and almost never mean the same thing. The term is used for anything from an annoying habit to genuinely dangerous behavior. That confusion has a cost: it makes serious things look ordinary and turns minor things into drama.

The site comes at the problem from an unusual angle: instead of handing down a list of behaviors to run from, it puts them to a vote. Thousands of choices between two situations end up showing where people collectively draw the line — and, above all, where they disagree with each other.

What you’ll find here

Games. The Red or Green duel puts two behaviors side by side and asks you to pick. “It’s a 10, but…” has you rate red flags and green flags one at a time, up to 15/10, and gives the profile the average. The Oracle weighs in on a situation you describe in your own words. All of them are free and need no account.

A ranking. The red flag rankings pull the votes together and let you compare judgments by gender and age bracket. It’s the most interesting part of the site: it reveals disagreements nobody suspected.

Guideposts. The flag guide explains the difference between green, white, orange, red and black flags, with real-life examples.

Self-assessment tools. The violence meter, the consent meter and the other questionnaires are based on scales produced by French public institutions and specialized nonprofits. They’re a different kind of content from the rest of the site, and their sources are published.

Our principles

• No account, no data harvesting. You don’t need to sign up to play. The self-assessment tools run in your browser and don’t send any answers.
• Playful doesn’t mean careless. The games have a light tone, but as soon as a topic touches on violence or consent, we switch to named sources and emergency numbers.
• The numbers come with their limits. Our sample is self-selected and doesn’t represent the general population. It says so in black and white in the methodology.
• Adults-only content really is adults-only. Prompts in the “Love & Sex” category aren’t shown to players who select the 16–18 age bracket.

What this site is not

It isn’t a support service, a diagnostic tool or professional advice. A questionnaire knows nothing about a relationship’s context, its history or the power dynamics running through it.

If you’re in danger in France: 3919 (helpline for women facing violence, 24/7), 119 (children at risk), 17 (police emergency). Anywhere in the EU, 112 also works.

Support the site

The games are free. If one of them made you laugh or think, you can buy us a coffee: it helps pay for hosting and the time spent writing them. Payment goes through the donation platform; the site never sees any of it.

Contact us

A mistake to report, a source to correct, a prompt to remove, a request about your data: write to chadizarkal25@gmail.com. Every message is read.

The site is also on Instagram at @redorgreen.fr.

Information about the publisher and the host is in the legal notice. How data is handled is explained in the privacy policy.