Where this tool comes from
The Incestomètre (incest meter) draws on the work of the French associations Face à l’inceste and Mémoire Traumatique et Victimologie, which have documented for years how frequent sexual violence within families is, and the silence that surrounds it.
Why a grid specific to the family
Because the usual reference points are blurred there in a way you do not find elsewhere. What would immediately be recognized as a transgression between strangers is presented, within a family, as affection, a habit, a joke or a tradition. The people around often take part in this reframing, without bad intentions.
The situations therefore concern the limits of the body, privacy, sexual remarks, imposed secrets and the sidelining of whoever complains.
It is never too late to talk about it
In France, 119 (children in danger) is free, anonymous and available 24 hours a day — including for an adult worried about a child. For past events, the associations credited on our sources page also support adults, however much time has passed. Outside France, call your local emergency number if you are in danger.
Each situation is introduced by “Does a family member or someone close to you…” The test presents them one by one; here they are in the order they appear.
What is the Incestomètre (incest meter)?
The Incestomètre helps identify boundary violations within the family, including those that the people around do not name as such.
Is the test confidential?
Yes. The 20 questions run in your browser, with no transmission or storage of your answers.
What should I do if the result is worrying?
Talk about it with a trained person. In France, 119 (children in danger) can be reached free of charge and anonymously, 24 hours a day. The associations credited on our sources page also support adults. Outside France, call your local emergency number if you are in danger.
