Resources & Self-assessment

These five questionnaires are not games. They reproduce, or adapt, scales published by French public institutions and nonprofits to help you name a situation that’s hard to put into words.

Why a “meter”

The format comes from the violentomètre (violence meter), a graded ruler handed out in France by local governments and anti-violence organizations. Its value rests on a simple idea: behaviors sit on a spectrum, not in two boxes. Between a healthy relationship and outright violence there’s a gray zone where many people find themselves without being able to name it.

Going through a list of concrete situations works better than asking yourself “is everything OK?” The big question invites a big answer, often a reassuring one; the list makes you look at the facts one at a time.

Choosing the right tool

The violence meter is about romantic relationships: control, pressure, isolation, violence.
The consent meter is about whether consent is respected, in romantic relationships as well as friendships, at school or at work.
The incest meter is about boundaries being crossed within the family.
The harassment meter is about harassment, online, at school or at work.
The discrimination meter is about discrimination experienced in everyday life.

How to read a result

The result places you on a level; it doesn’t hand down a verdict. A low score doesn’t prove everything is fine: these scales don’t cover every form a difficult situation can take, and a single answer can be reason enough to talk to someone.

Likewise, a high score is not a legal finding. It means a set of warning signs is present and that the situation is worth bringing to a trained professional.

Anonymity

The questionnaires run entirely in your browser. Your answers are not sent, not stored and not linked to any identity: nothing leaves your device, and closing the page erases everything.

These tools don’t replace real support

No questionnaire makes a diagnosis and none replaces a professional — a doctor, psychologist, social worker, lawyer or specialized organization. They help you put words to things, which is often the missing step before reaching out for help.

If you are in immediate danger in France: 17 (police emergency), 3919 (helpline for women facing violence, free and anonymous), 119 (children at risk). Anywhere in the EU, 112 also works.

Frequently asked questions

Are my answers saved?

No. The questionnaires run entirely in your browser: no answer is sent to a server, stored or tied to an identity.

Where do these questionnaires come from?

The violence meter, the consent meter and the incest meter are based on scales published by French public institutions and nonprofits, credited on our sources page. The harassment meter and the discrimination meter are adaptations we wrote ourselves and aren’t based on any official scale.

Does a reassuring result mean everything is fine?

No. These scales don’t cover every possible situation. If something worries you without showing up in the questions, it’s still worth talking about.

Do these tests make a diagnosis?

No, and none of them claims to. They help you name a situation; assessing it is a job for trained professionals.

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Resources & Self-assessment

Tools to help you identify what you are going through. 100% anonymous and on your device.

These tools come from French organizations, and the helplines they list are in France. Each tool keeps its original French name.

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Violence Meter (Violentomètre)

Assess your relationship

24q

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Consent Meter (Consentomètre)

Check whether your consent is respected

29q

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Incest Meter (Incestomètre)

Identify inappropriate behavior

20q

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Harassment Meter (Harcèlomètre)

Are you being harassed?

23q

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Discrimination Meter (Discriminomètre)

Measure the discrimination you face

20q

🚨 Emergency — In France, call 17 (police), 112 (emergencies) or 3919 (violence, 24/7). Outside France, call your local emergency number.

🧭 What these tools are for, and how to read a result

These tools do not replace professional support. No data is collected — everything stays on your device.

How to use these tools